Grandmother brings up a child: for and against
What conflicts may arise
Mom and grandmother rivalry
One of the common. It happens because of different views on the same things. It appears between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, because they have seen different models of upbringing in their families, and mother-in-law, like people with a lot of experience and knowledge, try to guide the young mother around, not giving her freedom of action with her own child.
Such grandmothers do not consider the marriage of their children to be a union of two adults and accomplished personalities. This can undermine parental authority in the eyes of a child.
Mom forbids, and grandma allows
The cause of the conflict is non-observance by grandmothers of the general education strategy. Mum will forbid, and the grandmother will allow, most often in spite. The child has a model that grandmother is better than mother. And even a candy on an empty stomach, unresolved by the mother, can lead to bad consequences, the grandmothers do not think about it, the main thing is that the child is happy.
Fight for the location of the child
The behavior of the grandmother is accompanied by the indulgence of the whims of the child, the purchase of sweets and expensive toys that parents cannot always afford. This leads to the fact that the child grows capricious, harmful and greedy. After all, he can do everything, grandmother will buy everything.
Parents in this case need to reconsider their attitude to the communication of the child and grandmother, and explain why you should not spoil the baby. Or let grandma buy gifts only on holidays.