Help mom: how to teach a child to help
Helping mother is a burning issue in literally every family.Who among us in the hearts did not express to his child that he is not able to do anything and does not even try to learn to do anything at home.
After all, we all remember that in our childhood there were necessarily household duties. Yes, and in schools they used to be taught that mom and dad need help ... We are raising our children somehow incorrectly or in the last century did parents have some tricky secret to teach a child to help mom?
The answer to this rhetorical question is in our today's material.
Help mom: when we lose a good moment
Perhaps, mothers of 6–9 summer schoolchildren are no longer remembered, but being an active 1-3 year old toddler their child must have tried to help their mother at home. It is at this age that it is very interesting for a child to repeat everything he does for an adult. So he feels the independence he needs.
Of course, the help of a two-year toddler is rather an extra problem for mom.Not only does the baby do everything for a long time, it also breaks something, drops it, or scatters it.
What kind of mother will resist the temptation to do everything herself: it is both faster and more effective. However, such a removal from household chores - “go, play, and I’ll better take it away” - subsequently completely discourages the child from the desire to do anything at all for the common good.
And then we, the parents, decide that it is time for the child to do something, make a complaint to him and expect him to agree and take action. We want the child to help us suddenly, as if by magic.
And this skill is not formed for him, because if a child is not taught to read, he will not be able to read. If up to 6–9 years old the child did nothing at home, he simply does not understand why suddenly everything should change now, and therefore ignores the requests and demands of adults.
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Help mom: when the baby is from 1 to 3 years old
If your baby is still at that most charming age when helping mom is his dream and aspiration, support his wishes. Of course, initially there will not be much sense from his help, but if you give your child a “front of work”, he will be able to feel his own importance and the need for his mother’s help around the house.
1.Purity. Show how to properly use a rag, mopping the floor, dusting, sweeping, vacuuming. Give your child a responsibility area: let him wipe the dust as much as possible or sweep up, wash the floor in the room or corridor.
2.Dishes. If the child wants to wash the dishes, be prepared for the fact that several plates or cups will suffer. Do not scream and scold the baby, he learns and that's fine. You are afraid for porcelain - give us plastic or metal utensils for training, it’s just important to gain the necessary skill. Dishes after themselves let them wash themselves.
3.Appliances. Tell us how the home appliances work, teach them how to use it. At 2-3 years old, the baby is fully capable of understanding which button in the electric kettle, microwave or washing machine should be pressed in order for it to start working. Teach your child to sort things for washing, to get water in the kettle. Of course, the child must communicate with technology under the supervision of adults.
6.Work in the kitchen. Involve the child in the process of cooking and table setting. Allow to sculpt from dough, put stuffing, peel boiled eggs, rub grated cheese or carrots, get necessary utensils from the lower shelves, etc. Another task for the toddler is to disassemble the shopping bag.
7.Bathroom. If the child knows what hand washing is, he will value clean things more. Of course, a washing machine is now in almost every family, but we often quickly wipe the handkerchief or underwear with our hands, clean off the shoes with a sponge, wash the stains on the jacket, so the luggage of such skills to the child will not hurt.
8.Repairs. If dad knows how to hold tools in his hands - it is worthwhile to involve a child in repair processes. Of course, it is not necessary to give a hammer at once, but to master how to twist and untwist screws, to saw together with an adult thin wooden bars - it is quite real.
Help mom: if the house grows up lazy
If time is lost, and a little lazy person grows up in your house, things are a little more complicated - homework should not be submitted as duties, but as a choice.
1. Make a list of things that adults do, but they can be passed on to children.
2. Write the name of the tasks, their brief description, the time and the days of the week, when they need to be performed on small cards.
3. Gather the whole family together and ask each person to choose an even number of things they can do.
Thus, children do not receive instructions from you, in response to which you will hear complaints and excuses, but they feel as one with the family.
Let the child choose the tasks that he likes, and if something turns out to be too difficult, or just get tired of it in a couple of weeks, you can always exchange with someone from home.
An important nuance for parents is that they need to change their tasks, and not take the child's work out of habit.
Next is the most difficult parent task:reminder and control. A reminder can be enjoyable if it is open.
Take a drawing paper, draw out a tablet, where days of the week will be listed in one column, and all family members in the other. Each selected task is placed in the corresponding box, which is marked with one color, if it is made and the other - if not done.
Everything is open, visible, understandable and stimulates not to be worse than others. Suddenly dad forget to do what is planned? Here will be joy for the younger generation
Agree in advance on the system of fines and incentives that are common to all and try to adhere to it.
This is a serious and long-lasting job.But to move the child from the "lazy point" is quite realistic and we wish you success!
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