The child considers himself ugly: what to do?
In everything in the world there is a beauty, even an unsympathetic person can be very pleasant and charming. It would seem that these are understandable truths that do not require clarification and evidence. In general, yes! But, not for everyone.
Adults, having life experience, beliefs, their own view of the world, can spend hours saying that there are no ugly people, that everyone has something special, but the situation with teenagers is completely different.
Having seen plenty of Hollywood films, star photo shoots, they start to hate themselves for the fact that they are not as perfect as girls and boys on the cover. Many of them hate themselves so much that they get depressed and try to experiment on their appearance. What if your child considers himself ugly? How to help him get rid of teenage complexes?
Why does the child consider himself ugly?
A child of preschool age does not know how to evaluate his appearance.Any compliments of parents or friends help him to believe that he is attractive. When the child grows up and finds himself in the school collective, he begins to compare himself with other children and with unattainable images from television and glossy magazines.
From this moment the problems begin. After all, comparing a child is not always in his favor, and if other classmates tease him because of a too long nose, and parents never tell him that he has the most beautiful, then the complexes are provided.
For a child who considers himself to be ugly, all ideals collapse, such a child closes from the world, he avoids communication, tries to become invisible to society, avoids contact with the opposite sex.
As a result, the child develops depression and discontent with life. In this situation, he more than ever needed the help of parents.
How to help the child?
1.Try to focus more on the appearance of the child, to emphasize its positive aspects. For example, you can tell a teenage son that now he is very similar to his dad when he was young, that his father looked the same, was as beautiful as he is now, when you met him and fell in love with each other.
2.Explain to the child that beauty is a complex concept; it is not limited to the color of eyes, hair, the size of the nose, or the width of the waist. Beauty is a state of mind, this is the energy that comes from a person.
3.Stand with the child in front of the mirror and point him to the positive aspects of his appearance, compare them with your features, find similarities.
4.Teach your child to love himself the way he is, because there will be no other. Explain to him that each person is a whole world, andthe canons of beauty are all standards imposed by time. He will propose to him to see the photo of the standards of beauty of different years, so that he understands that the attitude towards appearance is very changeable.
5.Help the child find his style in clothes that would help to hide the shortcomings of his appearance and emphasize dignity.
6.Tell him about your acquaintances and relatives, who are outwardly far from the ideals of modern beauty, but they are very nice, charming and successful people.
7.You can also tell your child that many of the stars that he now admires, which he is trying to be like, at his age were completely unhappy with their appearance.For example, Julia Roberts had complexes because of a too big mouth, Uma Thurman because of her height, Beyonce because of her fullness, and so on.
Be attentive to your teenager, be interested in his affairs, watching his mood, try to be a friend to your child, so that he knows that in any situation he can count on your support and advice.